All too often I am reminded of how hope, faith and the power of choice can be taken for granted or altogether neglected. There is power in our words, our actions and the ways we affect others. This is most obvious and perhaps receives the most attention when someone is economically disadvantage, perhaps ‘not smart enough’ or fighting an illness. It’s where the films of Hollywood and sometimes our own lives choose to focus. If we’re well off and things are ‘ok’ what more could we want? That may be true, but when things aren’t ok and aren’t the way we like, how often do we project that emptiness or sadness onto someone else?
Here in Ecuador I have had the opportunity to visit several orphanages, and while I cannot claim to know what each little child needs, it frequently is as simple as a little attention and some love. Sadly, I don’t just see this in orphans or the poor. I see this in the children of people I know, men I have dated. Children are told what they can and can’t do, told they’re smart or not smart enough. They frequently have no boundaries. They don’t know whether they’re coming or going. I’m digressing. This could be another topic entirely. Getting back on track, what I see most is a lack of faith and hope… in themselves or from their loved ones. Some are strong enough and have the fortitude to fight against it, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t leave a mark on the soul. Never feeling your loved ones have faith in you can be forever damaging.
And if you’re sick, perhaps terminally, hope, faith and choice are our best weapons to fight it. But sometimes, one word, one phrase, from one person can turn those lights out. It happened to my mother, so I know. A woman who had fought with every breath she had against Multiple Sclerosis – at a time when little to nothing was known about the disease – and in the blink of an eye, her doctor took everything away from her. He said she had no hope of ever being any better than she was at that moment. Those who were in the room with her said you could see the light go out from behind her eyes. She deteriorated rapidly. She was dead 5 weeks later. She had hope. She had faith. But she chose to stop when the doctor chose his words poorly. There’s honesty and then there’s tact.
As a parent, or an adult, we have a bad day. We’re angry, we’ve been stepped on all day by a tough workload, demands from all directions and we snap. We say something in the heat of the moment that has a lasting impact. Your daughter is singing and you tell her to stop, you can’t stand her voice. She believes you and never sings again. You tell your boyfriend or your husband to stop cuddling and get away. It may be the last time they do. We have a choice in those moments. We have the power to choose our words. Sometimes, nothing is better.
You’re child receives all A’s and one B. But why was there a B? Why wasn’t everything an A? You haven’t even mentioned how proud you are of the As and all the hard work that went into that area. We can’t all be fantastic in every area of our lives. Are you? Believe in your children. Believe in each other. Believe in your employees. What we say has an impact. Too many dreams are squashed before they even have a chance to begin.
We hope for better things. We should. Hope is what gives us our strength for faith – faith in God, faith in each other, faith in ourselves – to keep going, no matter how hard the path. And choice, that’s the most powerful of all. We choose our path every day. If we’re sad, we can choose to be happy. If we had a tough day, we can choose for the next one to be a little better. It sounds simplistic, but it’s not. I promise you. But it can be done. I do it everyday. Things go wrong. But I have the choice to make it a blessing or a lesson. Either way, my life is richer for the experience. So it pains me, to see so many opportunities to share hope, to share a kind word, but feel overwhelmed and not know where to start. I can’t do it alone. So when a chance meeting or a random encounter presents itself, I grab it and hope that something I say may bring a smile to someone’s face. I hope you will do the same.
It only takes an idea to start a revolution.
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